My wife is BH a few months pregnant. She has a pretty good job offer. Is it normal/expected to mention that she is pregnant before accepting? Will she be resented once they realize that she needs to leave in a few months for an extended period of time? It’s a company of a few hundred people but she is kind of their first data team hire. It’s not really a tech company. She did interview in person and I guess they didn’t realize even though she is like 5 months pregnant.

If you want the job, take the job. It is literally illegal AFAIK for the company to not hire her because she is pregnant. If you are worried about their feelings, that is a factor that you can decide on your end. It very much depends on the culture of the company if there will be any hard feelings, and then you can factor that into your decision

You have nothing to lose by withholding the fact that she is pregnant from them. If she will be resented for hiding it she can always say Are you serious, did you not notice?

And nothing to gain by telling them

Agree with the above. Don't tell. If they mistreat you for it you found out its a bad job early and maybe have a nice chunk of lawsuit change.

BTW even if was not mentioned, it probably was noticed. Pregnant women always think that they hid it well and no-one noticed...

I know someone that told because they felt it was the honest thing to do. The company pulled the offer. Don't ever tell.

Also if it's a company that doesn't want you to do this, they won't offer the ability to. For example, Amazon doesn't give you parental leave benefits until after 12 months.

No need to mention it.

No need to mention. But if you plan on depending on any of their benefits, especially parental leave, do look into them before joining because they may not fully apply to new hires.

Keep in mind, the company needs more than 15 employees for Title VII protections to apply.

A coworker of mine was given an offer that included retroactive paternity leave at another company - i.e. they took him in with 12 weeks of paternity time off to be used at his earliest convenience. That's definitely not the norm but not everyone has an anti-parental atmosphere.

That's beautiful